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Reasons Why Men Cheat

Since ages ago, men are considered the “weaker sex” with regards to issues of infidelity with their wives and partners. Most of the time, cheating results from neglect and hurt. However, there are times when men cheat because they believe they can hide their dirty little secret among themselves.

It is thought of that 60 % of men cheat and 70% of women don’t have any idea about it. Through research and studies done by various experts and counselors, these are the most common reasons why men look past their wives and partners based from the opinions and views of different women.

1. Lacking emotional support

kissing-coupleOftentimes, especially in marriage, women are get caught up in different activities that divert most of their attention to things other than their husband or partners. When the wife is so busy looking after their children, parents, in-laws or other people, men are left unattended and without comfort. Contrary to classical myths of men being strong and unwavering beings, they are emotional creatures too. They want to be understood and given attention as well. Most of the time this reason results to affairs with a friend or co-worker who compliments him for his efforts and praises him. This is oftentimes overlooked because some men don’t want to be treated as emotional.

2. Marital issues left unsolved

When a couple oftentimes engage in petty or major quarrel and the problem is not resolved in any way, the male gradually becomes disturbed and unhappy. In these instances, he is put into a “fight or flight” defense mechanism. When he fights, he tries to save the relationship through fixing it. When he flees, he engages into an affair to build his comfort zone and escape the relationship issues.

3. Sexual experimentation takes it toll

Sex is a fundamental and vital part of any relationship and marriage. Either from elusive moments of pleasure or out of boredom from spending quality time with the same sexual partner for the longest time, a number of men find extramarital relationships more as a sexual need rather than an alternative choice. They feel the urge to have sex with different partners without rational thinking. It It is believed that engaging in this kind of activity makes a man sexually powerful.

4. When boredom strikes

There are moments when men think maintaining a relationship is a tiring and boring cycle. Sometimes, they feel the need to initiate a spark outside of their relationship as an exciting opportunity where they can practice their dominance in an affair. Engaging in extramarital relationship or affair allows men to have a new and thrilling experience. The obstacle in this kind of mentality boils down to two dilemmas: giving in to gratifications versus working on to fix relationship issues.

5. Childhood experience with extramarital affairs among parents

Psychologically, any experiences in the life of a child may affect the development of a person in some ways. Instances like witnessing cheating among their own parents signals an idea that cheating is good, even though they are aware that it is wrong. There is an acquired learning in this kind of experience wherein the saying “all things are learned from our parents” in practicing this kind of risk.

Take a look at this page of the types of men who cheat to see if your guy fits the profile of a potential cheater.

Catch a Cheating Spouse Phone Number Look Up

girl-cheating-on-phone-11You can now catch a cheating spouse by phone number look up. A lot of “criminal conversations” usually occur with the use of a phone, whether a landline or a cellphone.  You will be able to learn if your other half is having an illicit affair by looking at the phone numbers on his or her phone or when the bill arrives.  It may be painful to learn that your hunch is true, but you will need to get some hard evidence against your spouse in order to prove it.

Some people are able to catch an extra-marital affair just by browsing their spouse’s phones or by accidently hitting redial on the phone. There are also those who use the best spy gadgets that they can find and install them in order to know more about what their spouses had said, either thru calls or text messages, to the third, offending party.  But if you are one of those who feel nervous and scared of doing such adventurous ways of catching an affair, you can simply browse the phone numbers on their phone and do a phone number look up.  It is not that evasive and you can do it innocently and may just accidentally discover who that third party is.

It is relatively easy to do a phone number look up.  You can either just enter the number on a search engine and find out whose number it was or try the paid services of those who do such a thing.  If you think that it is not that important, that you have to actually spend money just to know who that person is, then a free search can be done on the internet.  But if you really want an exhaustive result on your search such as the person’s location, photo, and comprehensive background, then you might as well pay for it.

People often list and enter their phone numbers when they need to create an account or when they post an advertisement on the internet.  Thus, personal phone numbers can be easy to look for by looking for them through free internet search engines.  These search engines index all information that is posted on the net which is why you can get this information for free.  This is true most of the time, when the number is a permanent one.  If you are tracking a mobile phone number, then a more sophisticated search would be needed.

You can try using this reverse phone search by clicking here.

A mobile phone number look up would require the services of software providers which you can find through the internet.  There are a lot of these companies that offer their services either for free or with a corresponding fee.  They can give you an overall background of the person who owns the number such as his photo, address, and place of work, position, earnings, and his or her current location.  This is a more helpful process but it is also more costly and is quite guilt inducing as it is tantamount to snooping with a stranger’s personal information.

Why does he accuse me?

Question submitted by Pearl – Why does he accuse me?

Hi I’m baffled by my sons father/boyfriends behavior, maybe you can help me. I’ve been with my sons father for 5 years now the first 3 years i lived with him and it was literally hell. He cheated on me any and every chance he got among other very hurtful things he did. Still i forgave him until i finally left him for a about a year. We slowly got back together and he swears he has changed, however since we dont live together anymore he swears that i am cheating on him. Its an everyday argument. He constantly checks my phone, my stuff, computer history etc.

Im not cheatingon him. He however locks his phone, and gives me no account of his where abouts. I call him he doesnt answer, then turns around and accuses me of cheating. What is his problem?? I am at my last breath with him. I feel like he torments and makes me miserable over all the things he has done. .. like he some how reversed the roles. at times i feel like i myself am going crazy or something. help me please give me your thoughts on this. im tired of this situation. i love him but im not going to go out of my way to prove him wrong anymore, however i because i love him i want us to work. im really confused please help me. thanks in advance.

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I Think My Boyfriend Is Cheating

I Think My Boyfriend Is Cheating – sent in by Brittany.

i found a piece of paper in his house with a site called adult friend finder wrote on it an he says his fiend made him write it and when he leaves he dont wanna cal me or text me it takes him a long time to text back his ex girl friend and grls at his school told me he cheated and flurted with them he left me for aweek and wouldnt call or text him made a new facebook ad blocked me from it his ex told me he was talkin to her and ive found stuff in his apartment like a papar wth brittan gramham wrote on it and it aint me he acts differnt around me acts like he dont wanna be around me he looks at other women more than me he went and stayed at his mamaws and sad he was at a higway broke down in his truck and wasnt he smiles when i ask him if he likes other girls and i dont know what to do i need help.

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Husband Has Secret PO BOX

Question Sent in by Jocelyn – I just found out that my husband has a secret po box. I found the receipt for it in his pants pocket and checked his key chain and sure enough he has a post office key on his keychain. I don’t know what it means but I have heard that hiding a po box is a cheating sign? I want to ask him about it but if he is being unfaithful I don’t want to alert him that I suspect anything. He has lied in the past and I just want to know for sure without him hiding an affair from me? Do you think him having a secret po box means he is having an affair?

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Percentage of Married Spouses Who Cheat?

According to the private investigator in this video 65% of married Americans are having or have has had an affair. Here’s some quick facts about cheating spouses…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jJ_yWAmm_cM

Question: Who’s harder to catch at cheating? (According to the private investigator)

Answer: The woman tries harder to hide an affair

Question: Why do men cheat?

Answer: A man wants sex, duh!!!
Sex is a great hobby for a man

Question: Why does a woman cheat?

Answer: They seek emotional support.

Question: What’s the percentage of lovers that take their cheating spouse back?

Answer: 75% of women take the man back after an affair.

75% of men want a divorce

(Go figure, the women are much more forgiving)

Interesting bit of trivia… The 7 Year itch is real.

Many men get wanderlust after seven ytears and go looking for a sex hobby.

Question: What to do if you suspect your spouse of cheating?

1. Get the facts – Are they really cheating on you?
2. See a therapist. This might bring you needed insight and help you deal with this painful issue.
3. Know your rights. Consult with an attorney to find out what you can do legally about the marriage infidelity.
4. Sit down with spouse and confront them.

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