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Do Cheating Spouses Want to Get Caught

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With the flagrancy of extra-marital affairs today, you may be wondering: do cheating spouses want to get caught?    It may seem pretty dumb on the part of such people to be going out on such affairs and leaving enough clues about them that there can be no doubt that it is such a relationship.  Some people may find this really disappointing as they break moral and social codes.  Marriage is a holy institution and should not be treated lightly.  But there may also be other deeper reasons why such people can be so confident about what they do.

There are people who cheat their spouses for some reason which they think is legitimate and just.  This makes them do their affairs in a conspicuous or even, ostentatious manner which can make other people shiver.  Some examples of these are a past affair by the other spouse, not getting the emotional or physical contact that they need, and lack of attention from the other half.  These reasons can make such spouses to do things unabashedly that they may even set things up so that their husbands or wives can actually catch them in the act.

For some reason, some people just cannot accept the fact that they had been cheated on in the past.  This can be reinforced by the fact that the other spouse had not done anything in order to make up for his or her faults or if the relationship had continued to decline after the affair.  If the other spouse feels that this setting is just plain unfair for him, then he or she will find ways in order to get even with the offending husband or wife.  This means cheating without caution or regret.  They will do what they feel would help them get a revenge or to get even.

Another situation which helps to give rise to such a problem with spouses is the lack of emotional or physical contact that the other spouse is looking for.  If one is not able to fulfill these needs on the other partner, he or she may find ways in order to get that.  They may indulge in escapades which will help them obtain such needs even at the cost of getting caught.  They may seem to lose all moral and emotional restraints just to get what they want which would lead to them being caught.

The last is the lack of attention from their better halves.  There are times when one partner just doesn’t listen to or pay attention to them anymore that they just feel like looking for another who will.  These needs drive these people crazy that they would do anything just to fill that need.  This recklessness is often the cause of people getting caught, although almost everyone who cheats does eventually get caught.  There are different reasons why cheaters get caught.  There are some who do intend to be caught in order to catch their mate’s attention, and there are also those who want to keep it a secret but are eventually discovered anyway.

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Confronting a Cheating Spouse

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The only way that you will be able to get over an extra-marital affair in a marriage is by confronting a cheating spouse.  Discovering that your mate had not been faithful to you, as he or she had promised when you took your wedding vows, can really be depressing.  You may suffer not just emotionally but physically as well.  But you cannot go on feeling like a victim of your husband or wife.  You will have to find a way to confront them and make them explain why it had to happen.  You will only be able to do this by having a personal confrontation with your spouse.

It may be very shocking for one to learn that your beloved husband or wife had actually been lying to you all this time, but as the saying goes, where there is smoke, there is fire.  And you may have been noticing things which had been different with your spouse lately but which they have constantly denied or had given excuses for. But now the time had come for you to know what is true and you need to do something about it.  You cannot just sit there and wait for him or her to confess, right?

In order to confront an offending spouse, you will need all the emotional and rational strength that you have.  You will need to know what their explanations are and you can only do that if you can show them that you are there to hear.  Being emotionally unstable can wreck all this as you will be provoking your spouse’s emotions as well.  As we all know, overriding emotions often cloud a person’s thinking and will usually not help them to continue a sane conversation. So before you meet with your spouse face to face, make sure that you have listed all the things that you want to know and that you will try your best not to let your emotions get the best out of you.

The next thing to consider is the amount of physical or actual evidence that you have.  Make sure that there are prima facie or hard evidences which you can use in order to indict your spouse’s extra-curricular activities.  Find photos and print out text messages or emails to the other person which will be proof of his infidelity.  With such kinds of evidence, your spouse would not be able to deny that he is indeed guilty.

When you finally come to the time when you have to talk to them, do it in private.  Don’t try to embarrass them in public or in front of their relatives or even in front of your children.  These situations would not be helpful to these other people and they may even be used by the offending spouse to evade answering your questions.  You will need these tips if you want to have a successful confrontation with your spouse.  It will not be easy but it is necessary if you wish to gain your peace of mind.

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Electronic Equipment Used to Catch a Cheating Spouse

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The advance in technology has now made it possible for the invention of electronic equipment used to catch a cheating spouse. There are many ways in order to do this such as hiring a private detective, looking at the numbers listed on your telephone bills, or by following your spouse on certain days when they think you are at work.  But if you cannot afford to do the things that are mentioned above, you can make use of these equipments which are far more convenient and are more accurate even.

There are a number of equipments that you can use in order to see if your spouse is indeed cheating on you.  There are cameras, audio devices, GPS tracking devices, spy phones, and even semen detectors!  You can find a lot of this stuff on the internet and you can also place an order online.  This makes it a lot easier for you especially if you do not have the time to go out and search for a particular store which sells them.
Spy or hidden cameras now come quite handy for the spouse who is having doubts about his or her mate.  The prices can range from $30 up to a hundred dollars depending on your budget and the type of results that you want to get from it.  There are small cameras which do not require wire installations and can be quickly attached to a corner or wall in your house.  They may also be equipped with infrared technology which allows you to see what is happening even if the lights are turned off.  They can be disguised in many forms such as alarm clocks and house décor or they can be painted over that they can blend with the surroundings.

There are also audio devices which you can install if you want to hear illicit conversations made by your spouse.  You can get them with motion sensors which will record only when someone gets in the room.  You can also install phone taps in order to record telephone calls which your spouse had made or received throughout the day.  You can easily attach these gadgets to any phone and they can really be of great help in determining whether or not your spouse is cheating.

Equipment that you can use to learn about your spouse’s whereabouts is the GPS tracking device.  You can use it in order to determine where exactly they had been when they told you that they are in such and such a place.  It records the location where your spouse’s car had been with the help of satellites.  This way, you will be able to know where they had gone and for how long they had been in a particular location.  This can help you find a clue on the possible places where he or she may be meeting up with the other party. The last is the semen detector which can detect seminal fluids in any surface which can also help you determine if your spouse had been unfaithful to you.

Click this link to search for spy equipment to help catch a cheater.

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My husband is scaring me with words

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Submitted by Delphi. – He is hiding his phone,he is spending less than a hour in the home,weekends also working,in night times he sleeps his friends room. When I’m asking about that he is telling unbelievable reasons.some times he is hurting me.in that time I want to call 911.he is scaring me with the words “I will die”. and I had some clues like pregnancy kit,pictures,phone numbers.and I know his girl friend also.she came to my home also.their behavior also like that.i can’t explain in words.my husband before his wife he is that much close with her.once we went to strip. in that trip I’m busy with my kid.they both are enjoying. if I’m asking any thing he can’t say answer that’s why he is beating me. i have to believe him what ever he said. i don’t want to be with him but because of my kid I’m thinking what should I do?

 

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I think that my husband is having an affair

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Submitted by D.  – I suspect that my husband of 12 years is having a affair behind my back. I start to see sighs that a man is cheating like change of attitude towards our neighbor he used to have a good conversation but now he had something against her,he is trying to learn a different language like Spanish,he starts to walk the dog more often, he goes on porn websites to pick up women to have sex with, he lost 100.00 dollars of my paid check, and he is not in to sex with me now. what can i do to fix this. now he accuse me of it but i know that he is the one that is cheating. I have been faithful to him a through our 12 years of marriage and we have 2 kids together.

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Why does he accuse me?

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Question submitted by Pearl – Why does he accuse me?

Hi I’m baffled by my sons father/boyfriends behavior, maybe you can help me. I’ve been with my sons father for 5 years now the first 3 years i lived with him and it was literally hell. He cheated on me any and every chance he got among other very hurtful things he did. Still i forgave him until i finally left him for a about a year. We slowly got back together and he swears he has changed, however since we dont live together anymore he swears that i am cheating on him. Its an everyday argument. He constantly checks my phone, my stuff, computer history etc.

Im not cheatingon him. He however locks his phone, and gives me no account of his where abouts. I call him he doesnt answer, then turns around and accuses me of cheating. What is his problem?? I am at my last breath with him. I feel like he torments and makes me miserable over all the things he has done. .. like he some how reversed the roles. at times i feel like i myself am going crazy or something. help me please give me your thoughts on this. im tired of this situation. i love him but im not going to go out of my way to prove him wrong anymore, however i because i love him i want us to work. im really confused please help me. thanks in advance.

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