Are These Signs My Husband is Having an Affair?

Submitted by Alice – I have recently noticed some troubling things and am writing for help to determine if these are signs my husband is having an affair. I have been with my husband for 6 years and we have one 4 year old child. We have had our share of ups and downs and have seemed to struggle more with arguments every since I was pregnant and had to leave my job. Now lately I have noticed my husband acting more distracted when he comes home form work and on the weekends. He often doesn’t want to go out places or be seen with me shopping or at the mall. The most troubling thing I’ve noticed is he is wearing new clothes and dressing differently for the past several weeks. He even is styling his hair and wearing cologne which he hasn’t worn in years. When I ask him if he wants to go shopping he starts acting weird and has even picked a fight right after I asked on one occasion. Now, he’s talking about joining a gym, losing weight and getting in shape. I want to think he’s doing all of this for good reasons but since he is not treating me good I’m thinking the worst. Do you think he is cheating or considering cheating on me?

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3 thoughts on “Are These Signs My Husband is Having an Affair?”

  1. Ok, i was cheated on and experienced some of the same cheating signs as you are experiencing now and I may be able to help. U say he doesnt want to go place with you. To me thats a sign that he is either ashamed to be around you, or is trying to avoid being seen with you in order to appear single. I dont no how to put this..Have you gained weight after the pregnancy? I did and that was the reason my husband said he cheated on me. I no its horrible to think that your husband could be so shallow. Mine was and said he was inticed by a lady from his gym who was interested in staying fit. After much maturing I no longer blame myself for my weight gain and have since found someone who loves me for me. However, its important to note the motives. If you think he may be trying to appear single it may have something to do with the size of your town. Smaller towns talk. If you live in a small town this may be the case.

    U also say he is dressing different with a new hairdo and wearing colone. That would make me think that he was dressing up to impress someone. If hes not dressing to impress u hes doing it for someone for sure. Does your husband go to a gym? I would get involved with the activities hes doing to see if u can determine whats going on. Don’t sit on the sidelines and wait. Be proactive and find out where hes going when hes not with u.

    I experienced the same thing with my exhusband picking fights. He would then storm off and leave the house for hours. I hate to admit it but i ended up buying a car tracking device to detect where he was going after he left. It was pretty hitech. I placed the device under his car and later retrieved the gps unit and imputted the data on my computer. It showed everywhere the cheater went. I could see as soon as he left the house he headed directly for another house 5 minutes away. I went to the house and knocked on the door and confronted the lady who answered and thats how i found out.

  2. They say wearing new clothing and dressing differently is a cheating sign. I’ll tell you from first hand experience that if your husband starts dressing up and acting distant at the same time it IS a BIG warning sign that he may be cheating on you. Now you just need to confirm your suspicions and see where he is spending his time when he’s not with you. My cheating ex husband suddenly started doing his hair and buying newer clothing right after he said he ran in to an old friend from college. He would tell me all sorts of stories about things he and his friend used to do. However, something just didn’t feel right. I could tell that he was being deceptive to me. So one day when he said he was going to hang out with the fellas, I followed him with my two kids in the back seat. He drove over to a house I’d never seen and was greeted at the door by a woman who proceeded to through her arms around him and gave him a big kiss. I confronted him that night about his cheating and he admitted to everything. I dropped him like a hot potato and got full custody of my children, child support and alimony.

  3. I’m a little uncomfortable with his “new look” yet not wanting to appear in public with his own wife. His reaction about not wanting to go shopping is perfectly reasonable. Men hate to shop! I wouldn’t let that bother me in the slightest.

    But not wanting to be seen with you is another issue entirely. You need to ask him straight up what’s up with that? He might not like the weight you’ve gained over the years. He might be seeing someone. Who knows what his deal is unless you ask him?

    He is the only one who can tell you.

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