Question Sent in by Mari – How Do I Confront My Cheating Husband?

I recently discovered my husband of seven years has been cheating on me. He has been acting suspicious the past two months, coming home late, making excuses to leave the house and saying he’s hanging out with an old friend from college. Finally, after he seemed to start a fight for no reason, and left the house I decided I’d had enough. I logged in to his laptop and searched through his files. After searching for jpeg and video files I found a secret stash of semi-nude pictures from a lady he works with. I’m heartbroken!! I need to know if he is really having an affair, I mean the nude pics definitely say something is going on but I need to know the full truth. The pictures looked like the lady was some sort of stripper with a pole and lingerie with some topless shots.  I’m not even 100% sure if he’s cheated that’s why I need help confronting him and learning the truth! I need to confront him, but I don’t want the kids subjected to yelling and fighting. I guess I should drop the kids off with a relative and make sure I confront him in a public place. I just don’t know!! I’m also worried that he will runoff and leave us without any support. I haven’t worked in many years now and I barely have anything in my savings account. That’s another issue though…

Can you please give me advice about what’s the best way to confront him and learn if he is really having an affair?